We know that every thing we do in life is only for two reasons - either to avoid pain or to gain pleasure. Have you thought - what keeps you from approaching that man or woman of your dreams? What keeps us away from starting a new business, we have been planning for years? Why do we keep putting off the diet? Why do not we take complete control of our financial situation? What prevents us from doing whatever it takes to make our life exactly the way we wanted it to be or the way we had imagined? We fail to act simply because in that moment, we associate more pain to doing what is needed, rather than missing the opportunity. Our mind thinks like - What if we approach that person and we get rejected. What if the new business we started fails and we lose even the secure job we have. Like these many more things we think about. So we do not even TRY!
For many of us, the fear of loss is much greater than desire for gain. Which would drive you more? - Keeping your hard earned money from sealing over the last five years OR the potential of earning double of that in coming five years? The fact is that most of the people are contented in what they have and keep hanging on to it, rather than taking risks to get really what they desire from life. So, why do people in spite of experiencing so much pain, do not change? Simple… they have not experienced enough pain yet. When they hit the deepest levels… they tell to themselves… I cannot take it any more. At this point, pain becomes our friend. It drives us to take new actions and produce new results. What motivated that decision? It was he desire to remove pain from our life and establish once again pleasure of pride, comfort, self esteem, pleasure of living the way we always wanted to live.
There are many levels of pain and pleasure. For example, feeling a sense of humiliation is rather intense form of emotional pain. Feeling a sense of inconvenience is also pain. So is boredom. Some of these have less intensity, but they play a considerable role in decision making. From pleasure point of view, pleasure of ecstasy is intense, may be outweighed by pleasure of comfort. Thus we weigh our own pleasure and pain feelings and the impact they have on us.
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