When we are struggling with grandiose, ruthless, self-entitled narcissists in our personal and professional lives, we ask ourselves: “How did this person develop into such a self-absorbed, unempathic, deceitful individual?” The answer is not in the stars or the genetics as far as we presently know. The personality of the narcissist develops very early in childhood as a result of his (her) interactions with mother, father or both parents. In many instances the future narcissist is chosen for special talents, intellectual brilliance, physical attractiveness, athletic prowess, or a combination of gifts to become the favored child in the family. The budding narcissist is placed in the role of the chosen one who will fulfill the yearnings and dreams of the parents. Raising a perfect son or daughter will make up for their feelings of inadequacy. A message that the parent communicates to this child is: “You are perfect; you have no limits; you can do no wrong.” This child grows up to believe that he is superior to others. The parent does not teach this child to be sensitive to the feelings of others. All that matters is succeeding, destroying your competitors and reaching the very top of the mountain. The future narcissist develops a grandiose false self. Believing that he is perfect and superior and more entitled, the narcissist leads his life manipulating others, convincing them of his superiority and greatness. Despite his success in the world and the appearance of independence, the narcissist remains psychologically frozen in early childhood. On an unconscious level he is still attached to parental adoration and expectations.